We are living in an age were people are rushing into marriage because they feel they are old, lonely, want babies or looking to hide their weaknesses. We grow up listening to others telling us it's time to get married. Nowadays churches are giving pressure to both the congregation and upcoming pastors, forcing them into marriage as if being single is a sin.
Rabbi Eleazar said "any man who has no wife is no proper man" and Talmud went even further by saying "The man who is not married at age 20 is living in a sin. But it is quiet astonishing what Paul, the man who has written most of the books in the new testament says about singleness. In 1 Corinthians 7: 7-8 Paul tells us in - "I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried. Although it seems that nearly everyone marries, it is not necessarily God's will for everyone.
Some people do better as a team and because God knows this, He gives them mates that will work together with them to accomplish his mission BUT some people do not work better as a team, they blend and make the other one do the work for them, so it is not God's will for people like that to be married. Do not conform to the patterns of this world. But be transformed by the RENEWING of the mind. Read, seek wisdom from God before you conform.
To be honest, singleness should not be viewed as a curse, just because your younger sister is getting married before you, doesn't mean you are cursed. Just because a pastor is not married, it doesn't mean there is something wrong with them. The most important thing in life is not marriage, but is serving GOD. Are you serving God in your singleness? Are you seeking His face in your life or you are busy looking for Mr or Mrs Right? People work day and night trying to impress their partners that they are ready for marriage. Let me tell you something, marriage is not cleaning, cooking and washing the dishes, nor is it paying the bills, providing a shelter. There are many people who are doing all these yet their marriages are still in shambles.
Marriage is an institution of God, made by Him and for Him. If you marry because of loneliness, lack of sex, wanting children, then really your marriage is not founded in God. Before you seek marriage, seek God first. The Bible said, seek the Kingdom of God and his righteousness and and everything else will be added unto you. God know who you are and what you need. Don't listen to the world saying you are getting old, be single INTENTIONALLY - Celibate! Seek God and God will give you what is meant to be yours.
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